wisdom library
advices from the older generation, collected from the lessons of their lives and experiences
Grandmother was our center of the family universe, soul, atmosphere and a point on the map that brought everyone together.
I spent my childhood with my grandmother, in a big house with a piano and a round table under a brick-colored velvet tablecloth, which I still have, painted with ink by me in childhood. We, children were taken by our parents to our grandmother in a house with a garden, a ravine and neighboring streets, where my brother was allowed to go, but I was not.
When my grandmother died, we all stayed in our homes at a great distance from each other. It was not necessary to gather once a year, postponing all the affairs. I turned 19 and moved away from my parents, expanding our family geography. I didn't feel the need to keep close contact with my family. I started an independent life, my relatives were far away, and every day I was in conflict, communicated and did things not with them, but with other people. I didn't have much desire to stick to the roots. And when my mother said "they are your relatives," I didn't understand how similar DNA is better than living with friends, for example.

But a few years ago, tired of my mother's "call brother, call sister" I made a family chat. A couple of years later, I began to draw a family tree, listening to my mother's stories about those whom I had not even seen in childhood.

Smart people say that who I am and why I behave this way is largely collected from the history of my family. The characters, experiences and attitudes of my predecessors are fused in me. None of them left me a verbal message, only scraps of phrases from conversations and patterns of behavior. Only once I asked my grandmother "is she afraid to think about death" and have not even asked my mother how old age feels. But these are all the questions that I will ask myself in the future.

My grandmother was walking from her graduation when the start of World War II was announced. She had 2 husbands and she spent her whole good life raising children and creating comfort. But I never asked her about how a woman does not lose herself in motherhood, how to cope with fear, sitting in the cellar during the war, how to teach children to wash dishes and not go crazy, becoming blind. What can my grandmother advise me, I thought, i am so modern and i am a new generation.
I think that every generation of people goes through the same challenges, as if without evolving. We all experience breakups, marriages, path choices, disasters, miracles. We go through the same lessons. What if there was such a library of close wisdom that collected life lessons of several generations. People who have lived longer than us, who live next to us, and who have already left us, would leave their message.

The most important thing - that is important to know for everyone who lives on earth. The lesson of earthly life.
Library of Close Wisdom - advices from the older generation, collected from the lessons of their lives.
Our mothers, fathers, grandparents answer the question: what is the most important advice you would give to your future children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren.
The Library of Wisdom is not only a study of the meaning of life, it is a navigator on how to be happy from those who have already lived a lot. It is a transferable knowledge that makes us wiser.
Perhaps this library of simple earthly wisdom can stop wars, soothe broken hearts, support courageous choices. Because it happened in everyone's life. Because our mothers, grandmothers, grandfathers, fathers have already passed this way and can share it. To share one of the most important lessons for future generations, what they have understood about this life, advices that will help them live it happily.
VALENTINA KOLESNIKOVA, 69 yo., Russia
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